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Post by Deleted on Aug 23, 2015 15:55:06 GMT
I know this story is a bit old, but I thought maybe it could be discussed anyway. From what I heard, the number of users is about 32 Million (though there are apparently some factors that have to be taken into account, such as fake profiles and people who are really single using the site). Nonetheless, what does it say about the world we live in when not only does such a website exist, but it flourishes. Given to the attitudes of some people in the media, you would think there is some serious personal damage control being done. To see the amount of people who have tried to turn the argument away from how disgusting infidelity is, or those who try to push a "it's none of our business" attitude, is truly despicable.
Very shameful behaviour indeed.
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Post by maolsheachlann on Aug 23, 2015 16:55:46 GMT
I don't know, Antaine. I haven't paid much attention to the story, but it seems to me that infidelity is disgusting (or at least, tragic) AND it's none of our business.
I don't really understand why a single person would pretend to be married for the purpose of adultery. Then again, I don't really understand why a website would be dedicated to adulterers. What is the value-added?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 23, 2015 19:34:18 GMT
I don't know, Antaine. I haven't paid much attention to the story, but it seems to me that infidelity is disgusting (or at least, tragic) AND it's none of our business. I don't really understand why a single person would pretend to be married for the purpose of adultery. Then again, I don't really understand why a website would be dedicated to adulterers. What is the value-added? Maolsheachlann, I would hazard a guess some people just like the idea of being with someone else's spouse. Also, apparently homosexual people in the Middle East have used it to avoid being found out (lest they are murdered or imprisoned). In regards to it being none of our business, I only agree to an extent. On the one hand, we have no right to interfere in personal issues that don't concern us, true. Having said that, I do find that "it's none of your business" is too often used by people who do terrible things, and want to avoid being shamed by them. I'm not suggesting we go and find the list so we can humiliate people though. For example, if I somehow found out that someone I was working with was having an affair, I have every right to have an opinion or even comment on it. If their own spouse can't trust them, then why should I or anyone else have to? Maybe we don't want to be associated with someone like that. If news of their affair got out then they really have nobody to blame but themselves if people start talking. In fact, I do find that that's a very popular (and yet hypocritical) mindset in today's world. People will say "I can do x, y, and z if I want because I have the right to do whatever I like; but oh, don't you dare think you have the right to merely hold an opinion." It's a fairly tight rope to walk, and it seem too often it leads to indifferentism towards immoral behaviour that people don't want to face consequences for.
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Post by maolsheachlann on Aug 23, 2015 21:53:58 GMT
Yes, but we're told not to judge. If it was a colleague you knew pretty well and you found they were having an affair, I can see you might have the right to remonstrate with them privately, depending on how well you know them. I'm not sure you would have the right to comment otherwise.
I agree that it might legitimately affect how you want to interact with them. I remember once, going for a night out, and myself and a gay guy being first to arrive. We had dinner in the pub together. The gay guy (a very nice fellow) started talking about his love life and how he wanted to be married and-- well, I found myself rather uncomfortable. I didn't want to be rude but I didn't want to go along with the pretence that he could be 'married'. So I can see how one would withdraw from social situations and social relationships where one might be put in a position of conferring legitimacy on immorality. C.S. Lewis wrote a good essay about this called, "After Priggery-- What?".
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2015 14:57:25 GMT
Yes, but we're told not to judge. If it was a colleague you knew pretty well and you found they were having an affair, I can see you might have the right to remonstrate with them privately, depending on how well you know them. I'm not sure you would have the right to comment otherwise. I agree that it might legitimately affect how you want to interact with them. I remember once, going for a night out, and myself and a gay guy being first to arrive. We had dinner in the pub together. The gay guy (a very nice fellow) started talking about his love life and how he wanted to be married and-- well, I found myself rather uncomfortable. I didn't want to be rude but I didn't want to go along with the pretence that he could be 'married'. So I can see how one would withdraw from social situations and social relationships where one might be put in a position of conferring legitimacy on immorality. C.S. Lewis wrote a good essay about this called, "After Priggery-- What?". I don't think it's being judgmental to feel badly towards someone who is acting blatantly wicked, and doesn't seem to care until they get caught. Again, I'm not suggesting a big issue should be made over people you don't know, but I do feel like people should be shamed for what they do. Not that they should be dragged into the street to be shouted at and spat on, but neither should anyone have to act ignorant of the heinous acts they have committed. They are part of the same society as the rest of us.
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